When you have discovered some of your unscientific beliefs with which you are creating emotional problems and making yourself act against your own interests, use the scientific method to challenge and dispute them.
Ask yourself: Is this belief realistic? Is it opposed to the facts of life? Is this belief logical?
Is it contradictory to itself or to my other beliefs? Can I prove this belief? Can I falsify it?
Does this belief prove that the universe has a law of deservingness or undeservingness?
If I act well, do I completely deserve a good life, and if I act badly, do I totally deserve a bad existence?
If I continue to strongly hold the belief (and to have the feelings and do the acts it often creates), will I perform well, get the results I want to get, and lead a happier life?
Or will holding it tend to make me less happy?
Persist at using the scientific method of questioning and challenging your irrational Beliefs until you begin to give them up, increase your effectiveness, and enjoy yourself more.
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Albert Ellis (September 27, 1913 – July 24, 2007) was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).
He held MA and PhD degrees in clinical psychology from Columbia University and the American Board of Professional Psychology (ABPP). He also founded and was the President of the New York City-based Albert Ellis Institute for decades.
He is generally considered to be one of the originators of the cognitive revolutionary paradigm shift in psychotherapy and an early proponent of cognitive-behavioral therapies.
Based on a 1982 professional survey of US and Canadian psychologists, he was considered the second most influential psychotherapist in history (Carl Rogers ranked first in the survey; Sigmund Freud was ranked third).
Psychology Today noted, „No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.“